Black Femme Fatale

just a winter breeze..

In no particular order here is the 08-09 Roster.  As you read down you’ll notice that I’m taking this PH criteria pretty serious and the roster has dewindled. I haven’t really been dating lately just waiting for the right one to find me

Most have departed but this is where they started: (the red are dead)

Coach: He is 24 years-old, engineer, pee wee football coach, Nigerian and the youngest boy in his family. We met in 07 at a friends birthday party. I randomly changed my FB profile picture back in Sept 08 and he hit me up and asked me out on a date. Lol

UPDATE: Well.. We’ve gone out a dozen times but it kind of fizzles in and out. I don’t think there is much of a connection. He also isnt looking for a girlfriend or anything serious and has told me he doesn’t know if he’ll ever get married. So in following and doing what I say he isn’t PH material and is now JUST A FRIEND.  RIP COACH.

Mr. Memory Foam: He is 25 years old. From NY, former pilot .. nice guy. I met him and saved him all in one night. I even dedicated a post to him Captain Save..

UPDATE: Mr.Memory Foam wants me to put in all the effort and the only thing he ever has to say is that I never ask to see him. MY philosophy is that yes I should as to see you sometimes but I shouldn’t have to always ASK and you shouldn’t expect me to?! He hits me up in gchat every now and again but I’M SO NOT INTERESTED.  RIP MMF.

The Doctor: I met him in July of 08. He is a psychiatrist, 37 years old, divorced with a grown child. He seems very much marriage minded and would like to have more kids.

UPDATE: The Doc is just not my type. He asks me out and I decline. I’m just not going to go out with someone for the sake of going out. If I’m out with you its because I like you. Otherwise .. I wont! RIP DOC!

Mr. Red Stripe: I dated him back in 2003. He worked were I worked we started dating. But like most Caribbean men that have come my way he was not ready for anything serious and enjoyed playing the field. He talks to my mother on occasions (long story).

UPDATE: Around Thanksgiving he asked me to come to Charlotte with him. I didn’t hear from him the week of and havent heard from him since. HE is one of those people that comes in and out of my life randomly. The next time I’ll decline his reentrance. RIP Mr. Red Stripe and possibly all JAMAICANS..lol

Mr. LightBright: He is a 6′6 yellow brother with lots of swagger. He is a new one who I met at a wine tasting. He works for the govt. We are going out this weekend.. He is 29 years old, killer smile, ex-army.did I MENTION SEXY!

UPDATE: During 2008 he was my focus. I just melt over some Mr. Lightbright he even flew in for my birthday and I threw my celibacy card out the window for him but alas he lives in on the West Coast and I live here. I don’t plan on moving there anytime soon so we’ve basically called it quits. No more him flying back here to see me and me no longer going there. Maybe LDD (long distance dating) doesn’t work?!lol. So I’m back to dating with my LEGS closed until I find someone I really like. RIP Mr Lightbright

Mr Tenderoni: He is the youngest and a new thing for me with much younger men.. He is only 22. Recent Grad. We went to undergrad together and he told me recently that he had a crush on me. I think it’s cute.  He is on the radar.. but pretty far down.. due to his age.

UPDATE: We have great times together when he is here but he lives in PA and I live in MD. He is young and usually not my thing but he is just brilliant and his tattoos are just sexy. The mind is week sometimes. We are strictly friends and will remain that way. I even tell him about my dating adventures. RIP. Tenderoni and welcome to the FRIEND ZONE.

The Chemist (aka: Penny/Peso): We have very similar interests. He is so smart. He is 26 and has 2 younger sisters. He is pretty cute too, with a great great body. Anyway, he recently moved here and doesn’t know much about the area. He is adventurous and I think will keep me on my toes.

UPDATE: Well I’m sure you’ve read the stories about how we met and I thought he was great I mean he was our dates were fantastic. We had great chemistry and we still do. I misunderstanding turned this Penny into a Peso. I eventually talked to him about everything and understood that what I thought I saw drunk wasn’t really what I saw but I think my paranoia ruined it and he basically said that it made him look at my differently. Although he said he wasn’t looking for a relationship somehow I had made him change his mind to the whole incident happened. So we are basically back at square one. Two weeks ago we went to the movies and dinner. It was a good time and there was NO PRESSURE. I don’t know what we are doing. I don’t think we are dating. I think we just get together when we aren’t getting together with anyone else. I wont kill him off.. yet.

The Que from HU:  He is 29, 6′2, nice build. Met him during homecoming in 08 and we hit it off in the club and were inseparable through the night. He is currently in grad school. He is a sweetheart but with a miniature chip on his shoulder. (I likey)

UPDATE: Ok so we’ve gone out a few times. We see each other mainly during the week. I mentioned this and he planned he actually met up with me  2 wks ago on a Friday and we had a great date. Drinks and going to see the sights in the city. We’ve never had the conversation of what he is looking for so I don’t really know what to do with him. I don’t know if he is just chilling or looking at something to be between us in the future. We’ve been dating since October so maybe it’s too early. IDK. I’m keeping him around for now although I don’t think he meets PH criteria.

Fin: His name is FIN .. because I thought we were DONE. Ok so Fin.. he is 29 yrs old. I met him through a friend back in 07. We started off just as friends hanging out and 10 mths later looked back and said, “I guess we’re together?” lol. Anyway, he is smart, funny. He is actually the male version of me! We stopped dating/relating (whatever we called it) after Valentines Day in 08. We didn’t talk throughout the summer but we have now started at least talking again. I think FRIENDS is the best place for us to stay.

UPDATE: Well he recently broke up with the girlfriend that didn’t like me being friends with him due to our history and the fact that she found pics of me on his phone ( I have no clue why he would have them on there months later). We now hang out like two guys hanging with each other. I tell him about my dates. He gives me advice. He makes sexual innuendos and I ignore them. I don’t like backtracking. Once I’m done. I’m done. So I don’t think he will be featured in any future stories other than the advice he gives.

Mr. SWV: 32yrs old with a 12 yr old son. We had a lot in common. HE is shorter than I like, not as cute as I usually like but his personality makes up for it. Beautiful Hazel eyes.Definitely a PH .. I think.

UPDATE: We went on 4 consecutive great dates. He wanted to commit to dating exclusively. I was so smitten I went with it. Shortly after Christmas it all went down hill. He calls, text and emails but I feel like its more of  “feeler messages.” He isn’t cute enough and doesn’t have enough substance for me to continue to be interested. RIP Mr. SWV

Southern Comfort: Knew of him but didn’t know him but we recently started to go out and get to know each other. He is in his 30’s, tall, dark and handsome. A multi-faceted type of guy who is reserved and quiet to start but seems like he may warm up once you get to know him.  

UPDATE: We’ve gone on 2 dates. I can’t get a read on if he likes me or not. If he thinks I’m attractive or remotely interesting. You ever go out with someone and not know how or what they think. I’ve had a great time on the dates but I’m not sure if he is being polite or if he is genuinely into it while he’s there. Its too early too tell but I’m interested to see where this goes. I think we have more in common then we both think.

SO as you can see.  I has slooowed the party way down (worksite ComebackGirl).. and doing more sitting  my arse on my own couch:

You thought you'd see me on my couch ..lol.. well someone had to take the picture..