By Jolie:
Hello Fatale Readers,
I know Fefe and I have been slacking on the posts but I truly blame Recession and Relationships. I mean due to the staggering number of people who have been getting laid off I actually decided to start doing work at work. Additionally, with the election of my President: Barack Obama I have been more insprired than ever to do what is right at work and search out for new business opportunities.
Relationships have also taken OVER. I mean everyday on FB a new person pops up “in a relationship” or “its complicated” (sidenote: what the fugg does “its complicated” mean) which means that less and less people are available to hang out, go out or talk shat with in general. Even my FeFe is chartering the waters of a relationship with MR. LDR (Long Distance Relationship). I was sure when they started that this would be something they both could work out. FeFe does not function well when a man is sweating her but she also needs a lot of attention so I thought LDR it is! BUT I dont know if this is actually gonna work so please pray for her. He is a good MAN.. on paper and otherwise.
So you may ask yourself, or not. Whats going on with Jolie. Well I have been multi-tasking my ass for the last few months and the roster is full. No one has really presented themselves as a front runner or true contender so some people get calls and texts..some do not. Mr. Lightbright is in town this week. He came over on Saturday and did not leave until Sunday night. I am still in the celibacy club.. thank goodness. We basically went out, laid around, slept. I felt like we were that couple that has been together forever. My nesting nuturing nature comes out when he is around and all I wanna do is take care of him. WIERD! ughh. So after he left around 6pm… The Q from HU dropped by and paid me a visit and took me to dinner. He is one of those old school Omega’s people warn you about. I mean he is only 30 but he is super involved and I think he wanted to throw me up against the wall when we kissed goodnight. Actually he did kind of push me up against the wall. For some reason that really turned me ON! Moving on.. the rest of the men in my manicane .. have been less significant as I have been slacking on returning calls and texts. It truly is hard to multi-task. At this point I have really been thinking and would like to be back in a relationship. So I am trying to narrow my focus and see where it could go with Mr. Lighbright although this would truly be an LDR.
Seems like LDR’s came up twice in this update and I would like the perspective of the readers to see if they really do work. Do LDR’s work? What do you have to do to insure they last? Can you be in a LDR and celibate?
“He came over on Saturday and did not leave until Sunday night. I am still in the celibacy club.. thank goodness. ”
i need to 3rd eye this. I’ll be back.
Comment by thecomebackgirl — November 10, 2008 @ 9:47 am
“Actually he did kind of push me up against the wall. For some reason that really turned me ON”
Wow. Have definitely been there and gotten the damn T Shirt… and the pregnancy test. J/K.
I was in a LDR with a guy that lived in Maryland.. They can work; he was just kinda shady.. I couldn’t put my finger on it but although our relationship seemed to progress, “something” wouldn’t allow me to truly let go and live free in it. Insert The Color Purple’s “GOD IS TRY’NTA TELL YOU SOMETHING!” right here.
To ensure they work, both parties must be understanding of the situation… are we exclusive or are we not? etc, etc. Communication and honesty is key.
Can you be in a LDR and celibate? LOL. Now this, I do NOT know. I wasn’t.
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Comment by nickisunshine — November 10, 2008 @ 10:17 am
@comeback: no need to third eye. I told him up front before we started dating about me waiting to find a meaningful relationship before ending my celibacy. Plus, we were so darn tired that we layed down and he immediately started to snore. We left the kisses to just small ones.. cause passionate kissing would surely lead to something else. It was clear he wanted to do something but was trying to respect me. Which made me want him even more. THIS PATH is not an easy one but I think its worthwhile to have meaningful sex instead of meaningless, mindless, dull sex..
Comment by Jolie Fatale — November 10, 2008 @ 10:49 am
“I told him up front before we started dating about me waiting to find a meaningful relationship before ending my celibacy”
mistake number 1…how far out the gate did you tell homeboy this?
Comment by thecomebackgirl — November 10, 2008 @ 12:12 pm
Clearly Jolie, you know I’ve been on the LDR, celibacy thing for a minute now. Its possible. not necessarily fun, but I’ve managed to make it work, and will continue to make it work!
Comment by Junior — November 10, 2008 @ 12:35 pm
I would first like to apologize for the ignorance you are about to witness but I couldn’t help it.
Yall I am so tired of the comments and blog topics about me with there being an absence of accountability. I have moved on with life but he can’t seem to move on with his and his constant attempts at a low blow has gotten the best of me and i have in turn written my own blog post.
Enjoy:
http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=371255148&blogID=447839796
Comment by Teacia — November 10, 2008 @ 2:36 pm
I’m feeling this new layout. The colors are very warm.
Comment by Your Dream Girl — November 11, 2008 @ 1:22 am
hey,
I think LDR can work when you give yourself enought time to know each other. Be friends first. When you get to know a person, you trust them and will know that they will not cheat and have your best interest at heart. The more time you spend as friends, the better. And be prepared to talk talk talk. I used to talk to a male friend of mine’s 4 and 5 times a day. We dated briefly in the past, long distance, but because it was so soon, I didn’t fully trust him. That dwindled down and we just focused on the friendship. It was beautiful. We have strong feelings for one another and I grew to learn more about myself through our relationship. That’s how I know I’m not the one for him.
Comment by cuzzo — November 12, 2008 @ 10:33 am